In the complex interactions of human relationships, disputes and conflicts are often unavoidable. However, true wisdom lies not in winning over others but in how to transcend disputes and maintain inner clarity and peace.

The wisdom of the Buddha Dharma provides a clear and profound path: fundamentally resolving disputes through the cultivation of one's inner character and mind.

This article focuses on core practices such as humility, forbearance, mindful speech, and letting go, exploring how to apply them in daily life to transform conflicts and attain true ease and safety.

I. The Fundamental Mindset for Resolving Disputes: Humility as a Shield, Forbearance as the Foundation
To resolve disputes, one must first start with one's own thoughts and intentions, building a stable inner defense.

• Humility is the First Talisman: "Humility brings benefit; arrogance incurs loss." Humility not only dispels others' jealousy and hostility but also broadens one's own capacity and perspective. Truly wise individuals maintain clear minds and soft, gentle speech. When you often say, "I have little ability; it's all thanks to everyone's help," and attribute credit to others, disputes naturally stay away.

• Forbearance is the Peace of Mind: Forbearance is not weakness but the powerful steadiness of choosing to remain unshaken in the face of provocation and injustice. It is the "primary method for conducting oneself," effectively preventing conflicts from escalating and creating space for a wise response.

II. The Key to Avoiding the Creation of Disputes: Mindful Speech, Renunciation, and Accumulating Virtue
Many disputes arise from speech; therefore, guarding one's words and correcting one's actions is crucial.

• Mindful Speech to Avoid Creating Negative Karma: The mouth is free to use, but the cost can be extremely high. A single harsh word can ruin a lifetime of practice. Buddhist scriptures record that a young novice monk mocked an Arhat, saying his chanting sounded "like a dog barking," which resulted in the karmic retribution of being reborn as a dog for five hundred lifetimes. Therefore, do not create negative verbal karma, do not spread gossip, and always leave room for others when speaking.

• Renunciation and Yielding to Dispel Hostility: In handling affairs, proactively "yield credit to others," upholding the mindset of "you are great, I am small; you are right, I am wrong." This is not passive surrender but adopting an extremely humble stance of "you are good, I am bad; you are well, I am flawed" to dissolve all potential opposition and harm. Only those who can renounce are truly great individuals. Renouncing attachments, selfish desires, and resentments leads to great liberation.

III. The Wisdom for Achieving Lasting Peace: Contemplating Impermanence, Letting Go for Ease
To attain fundamental peace, deeper wisdom is needed to view the changing nature of worldly affairs.

• Recognize the Nature of Impermanence: The Sutra of the Wise and the Foolish states: "What gathers must disperse, what accumulates must be exhausted, what is born must die, what is high must fall." A profound understanding that "all things flow and change within impermanence" prevents excessive attachment to temporary gains, losses, fame, or fortune. The body will age, wealth will scatter; understanding impermanence leads towards letting go.

• Cultivate the Wisdom of Letting Go: Letting go is the starting point of liberation. Shakyamuni Buddha renounced royal splendor to seek enlightenment, setting an example of letting go for us. Learn to let go of entanglement with rights and wrongs, let go of attachment to a sense of self-superiority; only then can the mind attain true freedom and peace.

The true path to resolving disputes lies not in seeking external solutions but in internal cultivation. By continually nurturing qualities such as humility, forbearance, mindful speech, tolerance, and letting go, we can not only pacify external conflicts but also build within our hearts a realm of tranquility and peace, thereby achieving peace of mind and smooth destiny, walking through the world with composure.